Huh? Read on.
I read the paragraph below in an article titled "10-simple-ways-to-save-yourself-from-messing-up-your-life" at Lifehack.org ....
Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t
worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make
yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.
So, if you don't like the way things are going.... change the way you are acting. Change your "personality".
Learn from people who are getting the results you want and use their techniques. They won't come easily at first... that's why it is called "Learning" and not "Borg Assimilation*"
[* For non-trekkie saavy readers this is a Star Trek reference.]